Hello, all 🙂 welcome back to another blog post. Today’s blog post is a special one it’s the start of my new Mommy tip Monday series. As a first-time mom, I know there were so many things I wish I would have known ahead of time could have saved me a lot of stress and even eased my new mommy self. Hopefully, by the end of this blog post, you will learn a thing or two. If you have any suggestions/ tips, please leave them down below in the comments section.
- Don’t buy infant clothes (or too many if you can’t resist)- This tip actually was one in which I heard from my mother and still I couldn’t resist I did purchase three newborn/infant clothes which I did use multiple times on my little guy before he outgrew them. Other than that I stocked up on a lot of 0-3 month clothes, in fact, his coming home pants were 0-3 months although they fit him a little bit big a newborn size would have NOT fit him since he was a little bit on the taller side and some newborn clothes run small. I know a few people gifted us newborn clothes when they came to meet my son for the first time. My tip to you is to keep the tags on the clothes some places like Carters will allow you to return them or change sizes even if you don’t have a receipt.
- Do not purchase too many newborn diapers- Just as I did not purchase too many newborn/ infant clothes I did not purchase too many newborn diapers I actually only purchased one small box of newborn diapers and stocked up on size 1 instead. Babies within the first few weeks of being born grow at a rapid pace and some babies are actually born big therefore having too many newborn sizes diapers isn’t really needed. *My tip would be if you have a closed unused diaper box or package you can exchange it for a larger size. Stores like BJ’s and Target actually grant these returns/ exchanges for a larger size as LONG AS THE BOX IS CLOSED/ UNUSED.
- Keep an emergency diaper kit in the car- You just never know when you will need it babies have poop explosions and can be messy at times. Sometimes you may even forget to restock your diaper bag with diapers, extra set of clothes, wipes, etc. Therefore, having a backup in the car is a great idea.
- Ask for help- I will admit I am a very hands-on first-time mom since the beginning I would do everything on my own but one thing I noticed shortly within days of having my son home from the hospital I needed help for simple things. For instance, showering I would ask a family member or my significant other to watch the baby while I showered. Sometimes it meant doing a bottle-feeding while I ate due to him waking up earlier than anticipated. You would be surprised how much people will be willing to do things for you. It can be overwhelming doing it all alone. Don’t get me wrong there have been times when I have had to do it all alone when my significant other would work 18-hour shifts showering mean taking the baby with me placing him inside his little bouncer while I took a quick shower. But if you have people around ask for help. You need help don’t burden yourself with this unrealistic idea that you have to do it all alone.
- Enjoy it- Motherhood is a beautiful, messy, yet stressful at times journey. Babies grow fast (I know such a cliché yet it’s so true) so enjoy each moment, laugh through testing times and know it will all be okay. YOU CAN AND YOU WILL MAKE IT!
- Establish sane working hours- Whether you’re working from home mom, stay at home mom or working outside mom its extremely important you establish sane working hours. This will help you and keep you from overbooking yourself. When you schedule your work life you are also able to prioritize family and yourself. Since becoming a mom, I had to maintain a strict schedule block out important dates for doctor appointments and family time which is very much important.
- Embrace saying “No”- I HAD TO LEARN THIS ONE immediately after having my son. My labor and delivery was a traumatic and life-threatening situation with a lot of risks. My recovery was rough therefore I learned immediately to say no I did not have a lot of people visiting me in the hospital I wanted to cope and recover it also meant I said no to having a whole bunch of people visiting me as soon as we came home as well. Even when it comes to raising my son I learned to say no to other people’s unsolicited advice, suggestions and learn to follow my own path.
- Perfection does not exist- Let go of perfection. Nothing is perfect you will make mistakes and life, in general, is about making mistakes and learning as we go the same thing goes with motherhood. Stop viewing people on social media who pretend and showcase their lives as being perfect and nothing going wrong. It’s only for pictures, don’t feel bad.
- Rest when the baby sleeps- I don’t mean sleep when the baby sleeps because let’s be realistic nobody does; we have a whole bunch of things to do the moment baby sleeps. However, you should at least rest take a break even if it’s for 30 minutes you will feel a whole lot better. Lately, I have been taking a nap here and there when my son sleeps because I have come to terms that without a nap/or rest I will not be able to function.
- Clean up the area as you are there- After every meal while my son is still in his high chair (either playing with a toy or having a snack) I pull out my broom sweep or vacuum the area. Wash his plates or dishes. Then get ready to clean him up. This helps me keeping all areas clean as I go. In the evenings I go into his bedroom gather his pajamas, diapers, ointments and place them in his changing table ready after his bath (if there are toys around, I pick them up and start tidying things for the night). This tip has been extremely helpful keeps my house cleaner and without having a big mess everywhere.
This concludes my tips I wish I knew before becoming a mom. I hope you found some tips useful. And thank you for stopping by today.
As always, I wish you all a great day! Until next time.